My son Jacob is now 1 year and 3.5 months old. For those of you who prefer baby-speak, he’s 15 1/2 months – I decided I wasn’t going to speak that way, but I digress…

This all really started around 1989. I was little and LOVED the Wonder Years. I watched it every week, and like young Kevin Arnold, I too wanted to find my Winnie Cooper and have my happily ever after. Complete with two kids and the whole enchilada (I’m Canadian, so, I didn’t think “enchilada”, but again, back to the point). So, I embarked on my lifelong journey to find my fairy tale wife. Insert Awwwwww.

Then in 1993, an event happened that shaped who I would ultimately become – I found out that my father had an affair. I was 13. He was my idol at the time. Well, until I found out. Don’t feel bad – I got over it. I decided then and there, that I would NEVER cheat on my wife. Ever. The situation with daddy-dearest deteriorated pretty quickly. Here’s the Cliff’s Notes (or, if you’re Canadian, the Cole’s Notes): Turns out he’s a sociopathic narcissist, he emotionally and mentally terrorized my sister, mother and me, and wrote his own ticket out of our lives. (There’s a lot more to it, but I’m trying to drive towards a point, and that’s a detour I really don’t wanna take you on…) I decided that one day, I would be the best father my children could ever dream of. I was 16. I had no male role model. Then my mom met my future step-dad. Suddenly I had 3 sisters. And a great explanation for why I’m such a sensitive dude. (Don’t tell anyone, but I was sensitive before all of this…)

A hopeless romantic. My friends teased me constantly – every girl I dated was “The One” until she wasn’t. I left Canada and moved to LA. I was 23. I met a girl and fell in love (I thought) and got married (had the reception at Hooters. I’m not kidding) I was 24. Marriage was the worst thing in the world. Well, it is if you’re with the wrong person. I was. I got divorced. I was 28. I had been doing standup comedy for 3 years already, so all was not lost – at least I got some GREAT material. Something was lost though. It was my faith in relationships, along with my desire to have a family. Insert awwww. Don’t feel bad – I got over that very quickly. I met the love of my life 8 months after leaving one of the worst relationships I’ve ever endured/survived. Not including my father, of course, but I digress…

We got engaged 2 months after meeting. Hopeless romantic, remember? Don’t worry, my friends thought I was crazy too. We got married a year later. I was 30. Then we decided to have a baby. He was born a year after that. I turned 32 right after he was born, and my life forever changed for the better.

Remember when I said I was a comedian? Well, I’m also an on-camera host, actor and I also DJ and MC live events. I know, that’s a lot of things to be and do, but those many jobs  allow me the flexibility to be the best thing I’ve ever had to be: a DAD (apart from a husband to my amazing wife – she’s reading over my shoulder as I write this. Okay, she’s not. Hopeless romantic, remember?)

So, this is my blog. It’s all about the trials and tribulations and amazingness of being a part-time stay-at-home dad. From cooking and cleaning, to changing diapers and baby classes. To the park and beyond. I hope you’ll check back from time to time. He’s growing so fast! He said “Maybe be” the other day. Only he knows what that means. I hope he tells me one day. Until then, dada and diggah diggah diggah diggah will have to do.


5 thoughts on “Welcome!

  1. This was a really cool read: fluid, honest, and genuine. In one entry, you created a world and a format to where your life and this blog will live in. The back story helped to create an idea of who you were, who you are now and who you will be as new husband and father. Well done, man. Can’t wait to see more. Brother Bash :O)

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